Letting go and Quotes – Easy Daily Reminders

I call them my letting go quotes, reminders of what I think is healthy for me and those around me. Thinking it through…….. , figuring it out….well this is my train of thought:

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Allowing our feelings to be, welcoming them without judgment and to set them free is a wonderful way to achieve a calm peaceful mind. Most people who have been using the Sedona Method for a while will agree to that.

Often though we seem to forget, whe get side tracked and forget the basics. Or resistance sets in, we resist the good the bad and the ugly. As Hale puts it ” to the degree we resist anything we resist everything” . No matter what the case might be we drift away from something we know is beneficial to us.

Yes, releasing when we are “in the gutter” but do we keep up when things start to move smoothly again.

Because I know how hard it can be at times. To be insured against my own resistance, procrastination and other warm company I gathered a great number of what you might call “letting go quotes”. When there is an interest in it I could mail one daily.

Sometimes it’s good to be reminded and have something to ponder on…. And a gently reminder from a like minded is as welcome. When you like the idea, leave a reply… I’ll see what I can set up.

No Attachments – No Aversions

Last night listening to one of Lester Levensons tapes about the fear of dying I tried to take a closer look at my own fear of death, and the struggle and drama we use leading up to that event. It seems to me that when we can let go of that fear the world changes into one great big opportunity. Releasing on the three or four wants is in fact releasing on this huge want, to survive as a body, to survive as a separate individual. The whole mental show we act out on is no more or less then a false belief we actually have a chance of pulling this off. Seen in that light methods No Attachments, No Aversions take on a new meaning because there is nothing to be attached to in the first place.

When you take an honest look at your day to day activities, thoughts, feelings actions or inaction’s you will, notice that just taking care of this body mind entity takes up about 95% of our energy. And for myself I need to say that this is a friendly count. I include all mental activity to earn a living, make sure nobody touches my lover, spending saving or lending money and so on in this category.

Ninety five percent, that looks like a lot of energy to spend, just to make sure this body survives. And this amount also makes you wonder if that’s not really an overkill when you consider that the race is lost anyway. I can fight struggle, worry and resist as much as I want but the end result will always be “a coffin”. Don’t get me wrong I’m not trying to paint a bleak depressed picture here. On the contrary actually, when I can see that 95% of my energy is spend on a lost case rerouting that amount of energy will have an enormous impact.

We are all going to die someday, depending on your age this can be within a minute or somewhere within the next 75 years. Survival as an individual is impossible, and the technicalities about my reproduction task are not difficult to comprehend either. To cut a long story short, In my day to day life I act and feel as if I have eternal life ( in the physical realm), but we haven’t. So why worry, what’s the significance of my special individual hurts, angers or hang ups. There is nothing to worry about, sure we need to act on threats, when our house is on fire we better get out and call 111 but why worry and plan ahead for something that can be planned to begin with?

Actually I find this idea on acceptance both troublesome and true. Hmmm really attached to it I guess

Feelings Only Lie

A few days ago I shared that my overactive brain is often (more often then not) the biggest obstacle to progress. Feelings, Emotions and Trying to figure out what to do have been critical in the early development of our species I guess. But in my daily life they it’s a hold back, that until now kept me from being and doing what I want.

The Sedona Method helped me to be ABLE to let go of most negative and even positive emotions if I choose. Two words are critical ABLE and CHOOSE. Holding on to an unwanted emotion can feel good. Strange but for true, for me anyway. Justified anger is a perfect example of this mechanism. When someone hurts my “feelings” or doesn’t treat me like I think they should anger feels like an act of revenge. I know I’m hurting myself, but in my anger and being “right” I can’t sleep, my production is at a low and the situation eats up all of my energy. I know that when I decide to let go and accept things as they are or appear to be the whole thing will fall from my shoulders.

But it can take a while, the angry feeling tells me that the other person needs to be punished and should feel very, very bad about his behavior. Then I notice a snoring sound from the other side of the bed and this can’t be so the idiot is sleeping.  Finally I fall asleep as well wake up early still angry only to find a cheerful husband downstairs who didn’t even had a clue about all my anger.

At the same time I feel exhausted, even embarrassed and overall like being hit by a truck. So who the hell did I punish with my anger? It could even be that no harm was intended and it was my garbled perception that noticed this huge injustice. Whatever the case what I did to myself was 10 times more destructive than my husband could have done when he really was such a sh#$#%@$^% bag as I thought him to be the night before.

Really funny, the way our feelings lie to us…

Personal Experiences with the Sedona Method

As you know the Sedona Method is the most profound life changer that I know. No other school of though has impacted my outlook on life the way this so very simple method has. And no other way of thinking and working with my feelings has ever provoked so much resistance in my. The number of times that I knew intellectually what to do, (let go) but just couldn’t aren’t to be counted.

The fact of the matter is not that the processes of letting your feelings go instead of expressing or suppressing them is difficult, not at all its easy.  You get the hang of it in a week or two and it works miracles.  From my personal experience I say that this is an easy program for complicated people (gosh where did I hear that one before).

What keeps me running around in circles in the resistance, the unwillingness to let go. Resistance!!. When you actually do let go of long treasured beliefs, it has a tendency to fight back. For example my belief of not being good or deserving enough was a big hold back all my life. Letting go of it was easy, still a feeling has a tendency to want survival. I know it may sound weird but in my experience energies in the mind do put up a fight for their survival. So you start to get tricked in feelings that work on other unresolved fears. In my case they took shape as half conscious fantasies about social disasters around the corner.

And there comes the paradox, letting go is easy, and when you do a whole series of behaviors and emotions become “jobless” and move on. Others partly related are more persistent and need some work, but also produce a heavy load of resistance.  They make you wonder if this whole releasing thing is making sense at all. In the fliers you find glamor and riches around the corner, but to me it was often like trading one piece of garbage for another.

So you could say that I struggled and put up a great fight… The fact is that releasing to get rid of something isn’t the best way to approach things. Lester talked a lot about Attachments and Aversions and how we need to become free of this trap. There is the paradox the difficulty for the “thinking” intellectuals like me. The whole thing just doesn’t seem to add up.

Letting Go of Good and Bad

You can let go, it’s so easy, but I found that in my case letting go to get rid off doesn’t work to well. The real releasing of my burdened mind started when I was able to accept me, my circumstances, perceived goods and bad’s as okay, as something that is perfect and couldn’t have been different. There was the point this whole exercise started to make sense, where I could see and not be told how easy it all is and that my resistance, shame fear and guilt are only little ripples on my consciousness.

Life becomes much easier then and things start to move in ways you wouldn’t have thought of before. Monica’s experiences are much like what I’ve gone through. Wanting to control outcomes, uneasiness about trusting the flow of life and the idea things need to be a certain way in order to be happy. The image of being on a raft on the stream of life with to choices, to struggle against an overpowering current or to enjoy the surroundings while floating along.

The end result in both scenarios is the same; the journey seems to end when we reach the sea. But when you put up an heroic fight you end up exhausted and bitter. Just being on the raft on the other hand conserves energy and because you don’t spend all you brain power on figuring out what can’t be figured out you start to notice opportunities, wonderful things and the perfectness of it all.

Just For Today I let Go

Just for Today

Often times, no most of the time, my biggest struggle isn’t the knowing where to go but how to get there. Putting all my intellectual releasing wisdom aside for the time being and see where I’m at now.

The biggest hurdle for me is still to simply make a decision and to follow through on that. It’s sometimes said too much information leads to paralysis and yes that’s my experience. This blog is not intended as a Sedona Method course nor do I feel the need to be perfect at it. If the method helped me anywhere it’s in the area of pride. The all knowing holier than tough person is gone. No need to fake it anymore. Its okay as is and lets plough ahead.

So information paralysis, which in fact is nothing more or nothing less then being attached to an outcome, and feeling unable to figure out how to get there. Well this sentence alone is giving my mind enough food to make a couple of things clear to me (this doesn’t mean they are real!)

• I suffer because of my attachment to my goal
• I’m lousy in applying the Sedona method in my life
• I’m trying to figure it out which I’m not supposed to do so I need to figure out why I’m figuring out which I resist, so there is tension and I resist my resistance.. And so on and so forth.
• I’m beating myself up

When you want me to elaborate on this list just drop me a line and I can tell you in 50 pages what there’s wrong with me.

Intellectually I know only the first point is viable. I, we suffer because of our attachments to outcomes. All else is just my variation of suffering or as I one heard Hale say my “favorite taste of suffering”. And hell, yes I agree one hundred percent, still I’m stuck.

Continuing my private moan, the end result is a head filled with diametrically opposed viewpoints and NOT AN INCH of progress in the direction I want to go.

Here to I have an intellectual solution, When we are stuck we let go of the want to change the stuckness.

Or to put it in a different wording:

• Until now I couldn’t let go of my want to make a decent living.
• I recognize that this want is pulling me in so many directions that my chances of getting the goal are decreasing
• I’m holding on to the same thing that seems to be preventing me from getting there

Mmmm, intellectually speaking I must admit that this mess can only be a production of my number one inner movie director “feelings”.  And boy did this guy know how to create an illusion. An illusion under the cover of being an educational representation of the future if I don’t change my ways.
My chief producers genre includes: horror, fantasy, drama , comedy  and I’m in the lead in all of them. Usually my part is not really glamorous and happy endings are rare. Educational fun so to speak, but exhausting it is.

Now most of my feature movies are about making a decent living, with an emphasis on not being able to do just that. Horrible scenes of lack, poverty or missing out are glued in my minds eye.

So do I want to change that ?

Yes I do

and can I let go of the want to control this whole production unit?

Well just for today I will. Just for today No More No Less…..and a deeper knowing that’s here as well tells me that’s enough