Resisting and Wanting

Do you recognize the feeling, you wake up with feeling of apprehension and discomfort about the day to come. That is if you got some sleep anyway.  You see the day ahead of you as a stream of things you don’t like or where you are afraid of.

To cope and following our quest to keep a happy face we push these nasty unwanted emotions away. We try to bury them and pretend that they don’t exist. Our mind helpful as ever when it comes to reminding us of the negative will try to pull up these dark feelings again and again.

The net result of repressing our feelings is that we keep them in the focus of our attention, while the whole idea was the to be free of them.

At the other side we have a tendency to think about and wish for a bright future. We like to vision the wonderfull travels, meetings with interesting people we are going to have somewhere in the future.

You can think that this is a good thing, isn’t the law of attraction about envisioning the life you like to live. But what is actually happening?

The question remains however, Why are we looking for this bright heavenly future? Usually this is because we hate certain parts of our existence and want to change them.  Now there is nothing bad about striving for improvement, what I’m trying to get at is that our socalled positive envisioning is coming from a place of lack.

And again we put lack in the present and abundance in the future. One thing I can assure you is that that future will never come. Tomorrow there is a new future, so is next week, next year and so on. It the story of the English pub with the sign “free beer tomorrow”, and guess what they never ever had to hand out any free beer.

The only moment to dissolve the feelings and emotions that are holding us back is NOW. And isn’t it always NOW? Past and Future exist in our mind, our power lies in releasing our wants, feelings and emotions in the NOW.

This will help us to tap into the natural flow of life, swim or float downstream instead of exhausting ourselves in an attempt to swim against the current.

Welcoming and releasing all our emotions in the NOW is the one way that in my experience helps to solve this riddle.

How not to resist resisting

Resistance is a rather insidious mind game that is at the root of all our suffering.  Lester got the insight that wanting to change anything was futile, it just doesn’t work. Change it or don’t but wanting get you nowhere. Wanting to change means we can’t accept the way things are. So we resist the situation.

Or our wanting to control causes us to put an enormous amount of should’s and shouldn’ts on out to do list. What happens to most people is that they resent the hell out of it. Don’t tell me what to do The fact that we ourselves are the ones speaking doesn’t matter. And look at your thoughts, if you are just a little bit like me you tell yourself things you wouldn’t take from anyone.

Anyway we resist acting on our mental to-do list and everyday reality. This takes an huge amount of energy because if we just don’t act on the todo we resist NOT doing it. We fear the consequences.

I have to exercise… Nahhh. Resistance kicks in and we land behind the TV, resisting the fact that we didn’t do our exercises. This really is a horrible situation because we are pulled in both directions.

With the Sedona Method resistance can be resolved. Sometimes almost instantaneously, sometimes gradual. Again what works for me is welcoming the feeling, let it be and have the power dissolve. Then let it go.

Another good exercise is called Holistic releasing. Because you are pulled in opposite directions you can release on moving in one direction (doing the exercise) and immediately followed by the opposite (not doing it).

Resistance is such a major stumbling block, I will take some time tomorrow to come up with some clear-cut easy to follow suggestions… If I’m not in resistance that is

Love Barb

What are you Lusting After

This post from Hal is so incredible “on the mark”, most are but this one is special…. Lusting is so rampant at least in my life. The feeling of NEEDING something but somehow the feeling that you can’t have it. That it can drop away that you have to hold on….

Read and enjoy!!!

When you work on goals you’re actually doing a balancing act. What I mean by that is, if you let go completely, you may or may not continue working on the goal. What I recommend you do with all goals is keep letting go until you’re okay whether or not you get the goal – what Lester termed “hootlessness.”

You can still have the goal as an intention. But if you’re really lusting after something, that’s always associated with a sense of lack. There still could be some sense of lack with your intention, but it’s not as extreme.

Lester actually created the goals process because he knew human nature. The process is like a carrot on a stick to keep us motivated to work with some of our goals and intentions. People in the Self-help/New Age Community were denying and suppressing all their desires because they understood that the end state of the goals process is desirelessness. This is not how it works.

So Lester created a process where you could take your desires and use them to make yourself aware of all your attachments and aversions to a particular topic. Then, whether or not you achieved the goal, you gained a lot of freedom, and at the same time, hootlessness.

If you want to create anything or consciously create, hootlessness is the most powerful place from which to create — not super passion like a lot of people tell you. Passion is just lust. And lust is a feeling of “I want it, but I can’t have it;” “I want it but I shouldn’t have it;” “I want it but it’s not right to have.”

There’s always a hold back in lust. There’s a craving, but there’s a hold back which is why just being passionate about your goal isn’t enough. And that’s why, often, you can be really passionate about a goal and still not attain it.

What I recommend you do with all your goals, including weight loss, is release until you’re okay whether or not you get it. If you stay hootless about it, in my experience, one or two things will happen: you either get the goal or you simply let go of wanting it completely and move on to something else. The best way to do that is to keep releasing until you’re okay whether or not you get it.

Sometimes, when you’re hootless about something, no action is required and it just simply happens. In my experience though, getting into action is often required. If you’re simply going to release to avoid taking action, it’s not going to work.

If you’re going to keep releasing and be open to action if it’s required, and then take action towards the goal, you’re much more likely to get it. In addition, the actions themselves are useful for releasing. If you get into action, then all the other feelings you have about getting the goal or not getting the goal also arise.

For example: if you’re working on losing weight and you want to just release and not have to exercise or eat less, then you’re probably not going to lose any weight, because you’re not dealing with the problem. That’s magical thinking.

On the other hand, if you want to lose weight and you’re releasing on the goal, you’ll also release on the action steps… so you’ll feel okay about exercise, you’ll feel okay about modifying your eating habits. It’s a combination of releasing and action.

Action also stirs up feelings. So, the actions themselves are incredibly useful because they bring up all your remaining attachments and aversions. In fact, sometimes you’ll take an action which has nothing to do with getting the goal. For instance, say you’re working on making more money… if you just sit in your apartment and release on it and take no action, you’re probably avoiding something.

However, when you combine it with action – say you go out and look for a job – in the process of looking for a job, you may decide that instead of working for a company, you want to start your own. You don’t know what’s going to happen. You could go looking for a job and pass a store and be motivated to go in and buy a lottery ticket, then win the lottery. It’s not necessarily a straight line.

I highly recommend avoiding magical thinking and I also recommend that you work on the goal, release until you’re okay whether or not you get it, and then follow through with action and release on the actions as well. Okay?

Love,

Hale

Please note: This is an excerpt from the upcoming Inner Circle 4 Audio Program.

Goal Setting and the Sedona Method

This one is always great because it’s an apparent paradox in the Sedona Method. As we strive to become “Hootless” why set a goal. Is having a goal not contrary to the idea that either way something works out is fine?

In my experience that not the case, goals and aspirations are natural and are what the are. No point in fighting them. Accept and release, and if you still feel like moving in that direction. Go for it. As Lester said, take what you want from life but only take the best.

The great thing about setting goals and releasing on them is that they bring up so much material to work with.  All baggage the kept you from having it already will surface, released and let go off. For myself I notice a lot of wanting Approval that holds me back. And it wouldn’t be so clear without the goal setting process.

An other obstacle I encounter is wanting to be right So working toward a goal becomes like a journey that allows me to clear a lot of clouds in my mind. The goal can change when you work it. First this sounded awe full to me but actually it’s all about getting into the natural flow.

When we stop swimming against the current we can see amazing landscapes, and then resistance kicks in and we exhaust ourselves again.

It’s late at night and allthough it makes sense to me the formulations might seem a little unclear. Tomorrow