Letting go and Quotes – Easy Daily Reminders

I call them my letting go quotes, reminders of what I think is healthy for me and those around me. Thinking it through…….. , figuring it out….well this is my train of thought:

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Allowing our feelings to be, welcoming them without judgment and to set them free is a wonderful way to achieve a calm peaceful mind. Most people who have been using the Sedona Method for a while will agree to that.

Often though we seem to forget, whe get side tracked and forget the basics. Or resistance sets in, we resist the good the bad and the ugly. As Hale puts it ” to the degree we resist anything we resist everything” . No matter what the case might be we drift away from something we know is beneficial to us.

Yes, releasing when we are “in the gutter” but do we keep up when things start to move smoothly again.

Because I know how hard it can be at times. To be insured against my own resistance, procrastination and other warm company I gathered a great number of what you might call “letting go quotes”. When there is an interest in it I could mail one daily.

Sometimes it’s good to be reminded and have something to ponder on…. And a gently reminder from a like minded is as welcome. When you like the idea, leave a reply… I’ll see what I can set up.

Are we Responsible for Anything Happening to Us?

Responsibility, once again a word with such an emotional charge.  Are we responsible for anything that happens is our lives? Are we responsible for anything we see happening in the world, regardless if it has a direct impact on us or not?

I guess we are, it’s our mind reacting to it and we can’t react to anything that isn’t there. Without attachments or aversions in the state of acceptance or peace our world view is (just guessing ) completely different from what we have now.  One thing though, we often mistake responsibility with being to blame and these two are unrelated.  By now some of you might be angry, think I’ve really gone bunkers, perhaps even frightened. But in fact it’s good news!!!

Carl Jung once said: “when anything seems wrong in the world, it must be wrong in me. Therefore the wise approach is to start with working on the self”.

It seems completely counter intietive to start “releasing”, letting go or otherwise working on the self when for example creditors are knocking on your door. Many would call it escapism, and yes their is a thin line there. But when we allow ourselves a rational analysis of this statement, it’s pretty logic.

Why did we get in a mess, while others in the same or even worse situation come out victorious. Luck?? Perhaps sometimes, but I think most of us agree that the real material success stories have more to do with personality traits then with pure “luck”. Some problems we faced years ago are still with us, others now seem like a joke.

I like to believe I’m responsible for anything, good and bad. When I get emotionally upset it’s a clue to for something to work on. Strange, the world I live in can only exist when I allow it to have meaning

Feelings Only Lie

Reading back the posts I made on this blog it’s fun to notice how I’m moving ahead.. Well moving anyway As added advantage to a normal diary is that is not a complete “one way street”. With a blog you get feedback, and that’s great! Getting feedback helps you to get a much clearer picture about an issue or thought.  Over focusing on anything, is in fact the same as holding on to it. Allowing your head to keep repeating thought’s, feelings, insights or whatever means allowing it it’s favorite pastime “figuring it out”.

Wanting to figure things out is so deeply ingrained in me that it almost is like dying when I try to let go of that want. It feels like the one thing that stands between my relative comfortable middle class girls life and total and utter ruin!.  How irritating paradoxical can it get, it’s the figuring it out, being in control part that is behind most “disasters” I’ve ever had.

Well Feelings only Lie, they tell you that what you are going to get from letting them go is in fact what you allready got from holding on to them.  Cheers Hale

No Attachments – No Aversions

Last night listening to one of Lester Levensons tapes about the fear of dying I tried to take a closer look at my own fear of death, and the struggle and drama we use leading up to that event. It seems to me that when we can let go of that fear the world changes into one great big opportunity. Releasing on the three or four wants is in fact releasing on this huge want, to survive as a body, to survive as a separate individual. The whole mental show we act out on is no more or less then a false belief we actually have a chance of pulling this off. Seen in that light methods No Attachments, No Aversions take on a new meaning because there is nothing to be attached to in the first place.

When you take an honest look at your day to day activities, thoughts, feelings actions or inaction’s you will, notice that just taking care of this body mind entity takes up about 95% of our energy. And for myself I need to say that this is a friendly count. I include all mental activity to earn a living, make sure nobody touches my lover, spending saving or lending money and so on in this category.

Ninety five percent, that looks like a lot of energy to spend, just to make sure this body survives. And this amount also makes you wonder if that’s not really an overkill when you consider that the race is lost anyway. I can fight struggle, worry and resist as much as I want but the end result will always be “a coffin”. Don’t get me wrong I’m not trying to paint a bleak depressed picture here. On the contrary actually, when I can see that 95% of my energy is spend on a lost case rerouting that amount of energy will have an enormous impact.

We are all going to die someday, depending on your age this can be within a minute or somewhere within the next 75 years. Survival as an individual is impossible, and the technicalities about my reproduction task are not difficult to comprehend either. To cut a long story short, In my day to day life I act and feel as if I have eternal life ( in the physical realm), but we haven’t. So why worry, what’s the significance of my special individual hurts, angers or hang ups. There is nothing to worry about, sure we need to act on threats, when our house is on fire we better get out and call 111 but why worry and plan ahead for something that can be planned to begin with?

Actually I find this idea on acceptance both troublesome and true. Hmmm really attached to it I guess

Feelings Only Lie

A few days ago I shared that my overactive brain is often (more often then not) the biggest obstacle to progress. Feelings, Emotions and Trying to figure out what to do have been critical in the early development of our species I guess. But in my daily life they it’s a hold back, that until now kept me from being and doing what I want.

The Sedona Method helped me to be ABLE to let go of most negative and even positive emotions if I choose. Two words are critical ABLE and CHOOSE. Holding on to an unwanted emotion can feel good. Strange but for true, for me anyway. Justified anger is a perfect example of this mechanism. When someone hurts my “feelings” or doesn’t treat me like I think they should anger feels like an act of revenge. I know I’m hurting myself, but in my anger and being “right” I can’t sleep, my production is at a low and the situation eats up all of my energy. I know that when I decide to let go and accept things as they are or appear to be the whole thing will fall from my shoulders.

But it can take a while, the angry feeling tells me that the other person needs to be punished and should feel very, very bad about his behavior. Then I notice a snoring sound from the other side of the bed and this can’t be so the idiot is sleeping.  Finally I fall asleep as well wake up early still angry only to find a cheerful husband downstairs who didn’t even had a clue about all my anger.

At the same time I feel exhausted, even embarrassed and overall like being hit by a truck. So who the hell did I punish with my anger? It could even be that no harm was intended and it was my garbled perception that noticed this huge injustice. Whatever the case what I did to myself was 10 times more destructive than my husband could have done when he really was such a sh#$#%@$^% bag as I thought him to be the night before.

Really funny, the way our feelings lie to us…